sally morgenthaler has wriitten a brilliant piece on worship in the USA. it sounds like she has been on a painful but profound journey over the last 10 years. it's worth a read of the whole piece but here's a couple of choice quotes. i've met sally a couple of times and she gave a very kind foreword to the US edition of alternative worship.
No sad songs. No angry songs. Songs about desperation, but none about despair. Worship for the perfect. The already arrived. The good-looking, inoffensive, and nice. No wonder the unchurched aren't interested.
For all the money, time, and effort we've spent on cultural relevance—and that includes culturally relevant worship—it seems we came through the last 15 years with a significant net loss in churchgoers, proliferation of megachurches and all.
As I exit the world of corporate worship, I want to offer this hope and prayer. May you, as leader of your congregation, have the courage to leave the "if we build it, they will come" world of the last two decades behind.